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Many of the pamphlets below are available for purchase from PFLAG National in the PFLAG Bookstore.  Pamphlets that are direct downloads are indicated by [PDF File] following the link.

Be Yourself
A fresh new update to one of PFLAG’s most popular publications! Recently revised, this publication offers a supportive and understanding approach to today’s most common questions and concerns from youth regarding sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression. With youth coming out–and disclosing–at younger and younger ages, BE YOURSELF has never been more important. The publication also includes an up-to-date list of resources, including hotline numbers, other organizations, and more.

Se Tu Mismo [PDF FILE]
This is the Spanish translation of PFLAG’s publication, Be Yourself. The book is a great resource for Spanish-speaking youth and families. This pamphlet is the translation of our older Be Yourself publication (2013 version).

Bisexuality Resource Packet [PDF FILE]
Bisexuality is a commonly misunderstood and misrepresented concept. This packet provides facts about bisexuality, commonly-asked questions, resource lists and a set of articles.

Faith in Our Families
Discovering that a loved one is gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender can pose new questions about your faith and may prompt you to re-evaluate beliefs that you previously took for granted. By using personal experiences, this publication provides examples for reconciling your faith with the knowledge that a loved one is gay. This publication includes an updated list of gay and lesbian religious and spiritual groups to watch out for.

Families in TRANSition – A Resource Guide for Parents of Trans Youth [PDF FILE]
Families in TRANSition (FIT) Guide – 2nd Edition – is a comprehensive guide for parents and caregivers of transgender and gender questioning youth. Full of practical and sensitive parent-to-parent and professional therapeutic advice, it tries to anticipate and address common questions and concerns, as well as normalize the varied reactions families may have. This guide was created by Central Toronto Youth Services.

Opening the Straight Spouses’ Closet [PDF FILE]
Finding out a spouse is gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender can be difficult. Questions about sexual orientation, fidelity, self-esteem and fear often go unanswered. This recently updated and expanded publication provides insight into issues facing spouses, including coping stages, identity crises, concerns about children and support avenues.

Our Daughters and Sons
Questions and Answers for Parents of Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual People. One of our most popular publications, this is a “must read” for parents who are forming new and honest relationships with a loved one who has come out to them. This booklet answers several commonly-asked questions about having a gay child. It includes a list of related resources.

Nuestras Hijas y Nuestros Hijos [PDF FILE]
Preguntas y respuestas para padres de gays, lesbianas y bisexuales.  –  A culturally appropriate translation of “Our Daughters and Sons,” this booklet is a valuable resource for Spanish-speaking families coming to terms with homosexuality and bisexuality. The booklet answers commonly asked questions about having a GLBT loved one, and includes English and Spanish language resources.

Our Trans Loved Ones
Our Trans Loved Ones: Questions and Answers for Parents, Families, and Friends of People Who Are Transgender and Gender Expansive. Our Trans Loved Ones is a brand-new, updated resource. Written by PFLAG staff members, and created with the help of content experts, reviewers, and PFLAGers with experience to share, it is full of information, first-person stories, and expert input geared to those who have a loved one who has come out as trans or gender expansive.

Schools in Transition: A Guide for Supporting Transgender Students in K-12 Schools [PDF FILE]
The groundbreaking guide, written for administrators, teachers, parents, and other adults who work with youth, covers topics ranging from basic concepts of gender and the importance of affirming gender identity, to best practices for restroom access and working with unsupportive parents. The National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR) and Gender Spectrum led the effort to produce the guide, joined by HRC Foundation, the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), and the National Education Association (NEA).

Straight for Equality: Guide to Being a Straight Ally
This guide will help you understand how straight allies fit in the effort to achieve equality for all. Learn more about what it means to be a straight ally and get some great tips and tools to being more supportive of your LGBT friends, family, and colleagues.

Straight for Equality: Guide to Being a Trans Ally
This publication, from PFLAG National’s Straight for Equality program, will help you learn more about what transgender means, develop competency around talking about the issue, become better informed about the challenges that many trans people face, and know specific ways that you can be a strong trans ally.

A Straight Guide to GLBT Americans [PDF FILE]
This guide, which has been updated below, was co-produced with the Human Rights Campaign to help cisgender, straight Americans in their efforts to be an ally to the GLBT community.  Whether you have been openly supporting the GLBT community for years or are just coming to terms with having someone in your life come out, this guide can help you work through your feelings so that you can express your acceptance and be ever more supportive. And it will give you important information you should know about what it means to be GLBT in America today.


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